What are you hatching?
- Debbie Baute
- May 5
- 3 min read
Sometimes, you've been contemplating something for a long time.
An idea.
A change.
A different pace of life.
Or simply... something you sense is ready to emerge but hasn't yet taken form.
You can't quite identify it. You can't clearly articulate what's amiss, but something feels off. You continue doing what you've always done and it still functions, to some extent. But it now requires more effort. Doubts intensify. There's noise. Fatigue. Tension in your relationships, your decisions, your work.
Meanwhile, that vague sensation persists beneath the surface.
As if something within you is alive but struggling to breathe.
As if, deep down, you know there's more to you than what you're currently expressing, but you've lost the path inward.
Welcome to what I refer to as the comfort trap.
The comfort trap: you're fine, but not truly
So here you are. You've already engaged in substantial personal development. You possess self-awareness, take responsibility and see the broader perspective. You're intelligent and grounded in your thinking. You perform your job competently. You lead or build something meaningful.
Yet, deep down, you often feel slightly disconnected from yourself.
As if your life is good... but not entirely right.
As if you're not fully bringing yourself along.
As if you know there's something beneath the surface that you haven't dared to confront.
You notice it in recurring patterns.
Conflicts that repeatedly arise in the same areas.
Challenges with collaboration or connection.
Decisions made "because you must," not because they feel appropriate.
And you sense: it's time.
But time for what, exactly?
It's time to seek out the underlying issue. To delve deep and truly confront it.
Truly taking a pause means allowing yourself to feel.
And once those deepest emotions, previously kept in the dark, are acknowledged, space begins to open up. Gradually, movement returns. You progress toward a state where you feel clearer, make more decisive choices and stand more firmly. You dare to embark on the journey of discovering your true self.
And one day, you realize:
You're in harmony.
You've comprehended yourself, not just behaviorally, but on a deeper level. You understand your origins, how you've been shaped. You discern what belongs to you and what doesn't. You trust not only your reasoning but also your emotions and intuition.
You no longer act out of obligation but from alignment.
Your leadership feels more effortless, clearer, more authentic.
You no longer need to force things; you know what's right.
How to begin: five tips for gaining clarity on your core
Embrace silence
If something has been residing within you for a while without taking shape, it's likely that your mind is constantly circling it. Silence, true silence -not just a break from emails- helps you move beyond that mental chatter. Take a walk without a destination. Turn off your phone. Lie down on your yoga mat. Create stillness, then let your thoughts flow onto paper.
Identify recurring patterns
Where do you consistently encounter obstacles? Which situations deplete your energy? What occurs just before you withdraw or immediately after you've overstepped your limits? Often, these patterns serve as mirrors, reflecting outdated scripts that no longer serve you.
Be radically honest about your feelings
Not what you think. Not what you believe you should feel. But what you genuinely feel. Dare to ask yourself: "If I'm truly honest... what no longer feels right?" Sometimes, clarity is already present; you just need to permit yourself to acknowledge it. Your intuition provides early signals. The challenge is that we've been conditioned to dismiss them.
Take an initial step to initiate movement
Clarity often emerges through action. You don't need a complete roadmap immediately, but take a small step toward what you sense. It could be as simple as initiating a conversation, adopting a new habit, or reorganizing your schedule. Whatever it is, it will bring you closer to clarity and the alignment you seek.
Seek feedback from others
You can't always perceive everything clearly on your own. Sometimes, an external perspective is necessary to uncover blind spots. Ask a mentor, coach, or trusted individual for honest feedback about your current situation. They can highlight aspects you might be overlooking or offer a fresh perspective on your path forward.
Ready to attain genuine clarity?
If you feel like you're contemplating something that's ready to surface but can't quite grasp it alone, I'm here to assist.
Schedule a one-on-one coaching session and let's explore it together.
Alternatively, join our Ecosystem Leadership Year Program for profound alignment with your purpose, within your ecosystem, utilizing your unique talents.
From contemplation to clarity.
From overthinking to understanding.
From chaos to growth.
Feel free to send me an email to further align: coaching@debbiebaute.com
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