The intelligence of decay

What are you still holding onto that has already served its purpose?

In October, nature lets go.

Leaves change color and fall. What emerged in spring and grew throughout summer slowly begins to break down.

We call this decay.

But in nature, decay is not failure.

The leaves that fall to the ground become nourishment for what will grow again later. What disappears is not simply gone. It changes form and takes on a different role within the whole.

Nature seems to understand something that we, as leaders, sometimes struggle with.

Not everything that was once valuable needs to remain.

When holding on is no longer leadership

We teach leaders to have a vision. To keep going when things get difficult. Not to give up at the first sign of resistance.

And rightly so.

Without perseverance, many valuable ideas would never become reality.

But that same quality also has a shadow side. How do you know when holding on is no longer leadership, but has become a stubborn refusal to let go?

When a strategy no longer works, we try to adjust it. When a project gets stuck, we look for a different approach. When people are not on board, we invite them into a conversation.

Often, that is exactly what is needed. But sometimes we are trying to fix something that is no longer worth fixing. The context has changed. The need has disappeared. The conditions on which our original vision was based no longer exist.

And still, we keep investing energy and holding on.

Not necessarily because what we are doing still makes sense, but because we have spent so long believing or hoping that it could.

Seeing reality as it is

I once worked with a leader who had spent years trying to bring an important vision to life.

A lot had been invested. Time, energy, relationships. Whenever things became difficult, he was willing to explore different possibilities and find another way forward.

At some point, it became increasingly clear that the circumstances had fundamentally changed. The investors were becoming less willing to continue. Key people were stepping away from the project.

The question was no longer: How can we still make this happen? It gradually became: Can I look at reality as it is today, rather than as I have hoped for so long it would be?

My role was not to tell him to stop.

Nor was it to find a new perspective as quickly as possible.

Something else was needed first.

I helped him create the room to take a step back. To distinguish between what was genuinely still possible and what was mainly being kept alive by hope, loyalty and everything that had already been invested.

I invited him to acknowledge what was there. And that sounds easier than it was.

Acknowledging is not the same as giving up

We sometimes confuse acceptance with passivity, as if accepting reality means simply giving in. But for me, there is something important in that distinction.

As long as we keep arguing with what is already there, a lot of energy goes into holding on to a reality that may no longer exist. We tell ourselves it should still be possible, that we need to try once more or that we simply need a little more time.

Sometimes that is true. And often it is not.

Ecosystem leadership asks us to be willing to explore the difference and look at what is actually there today, not at what was there when the vision first emerged or at the outcome we have been hoping for all along.

What dies is not necessarily lost

When something has reached the end of its time, we often want to quickly fill the space with a new plan, a new ambition or a new direction. But perhaps we do not need to. Not yet.

What ends is not necessarily lost. The knowledge, relationships and experience we gained along the way remain part of the whole. Even the original intention can remain and find a different form.

Just as a fallen leaf does not disappear from the ecosystem, but becomes nourishment for what may grow next.

For me, that is the intelligence of decay: not everything that was once valuable needs to continue to exist in order to remain valuable.

What are you still holding onto that has already served its purpose?

And could you let go of it, without knowing yet what might grow in its place?

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